26 Reflections.

Happy thurdsay, Reader

So, I turned 26 today.

I want to share 26 reflections from this year

that have helped me in so many ways, and I hope they will do the same for you.

Some will be deep, thought out, and insightful.
Some will be generic, clichè and to the point.

There’s utility in both.

I’m lucky enough to have lived these lessons,

practice what I preach

or have been taught by those who are further along than I.

But before I share them, just a note of gratitude,

for the continued support.

It doesn’t go unnoticed (even if I can’t physically respond)

I’ve been on this journey for over a decade now,

and have been sharing what I’ve learnt only in the last few years…

I started this selfishly, sharing what would help me (and I still create that way) but now, as my audience continues to grow, I realise I’m on my way to fulfilling a much larger destiny and duty.

So for every reader of this newsletter
Every liker of my posts
Every viewer of my YouTube videos

Thank you, we’re just getting started.

And I have a feeling you’re here, right before take off.

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26 Reflections:
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1. There is no magic bullet.

People are always looking for the single magic bullet, the single opportunity, the single deal, that will transform their lives.But in reality, true growth is a compound effect and mixing pot of a thousand different experiences, failures, learnings, and wins accumulated over time. Countless threads of effort, each one unremarkable alone but magnificent together.

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2. It’s not always 1+1 = 2

We tend to think that input always equals proportionate output. And that we’re rewarded for hard work. But the truth is, learning to think multi-dimensionally, helps you identify the right inputs that yield better results. Hard work in the wrong direction is not wise.

E.G - what few tasks can you focus on that will bring you back the most output? That’s where your focus should be.

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3. How to identify real friends.

I’ve been lucky enough to keep good company along the way. But something weird happens when you’re ‘coming up’ - people all of a sudden, see your value, or see value in being associated with you. There’s an old saying ‘time reveals intentions’ - couple this with trusting your intuition and you have a formula for navigating people. ‘Real’ friends will help you when there’s nothing in it for them. Out of generosity and the universal law of reciprocity. Shout out to all of those reading this, you know who you are. (shout out to all my loyal story likers too 😤💯)
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4. Don’t conform.

The way you remain real, is through non-conformity. Authenticity in my work, being the same on and off camera, and practicing what I preach has meant there’s no disconnect between what I am building in public and who I am in private. In whatever you do, don’t follow trends, or try to be someone you’re not, instead, learn to turn inward, and let that pour into your work.

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​5. Never lose the care

The moment I lose the care in what I do, is the same day I close up shop on it all. Care and effort are the only components that can’t be stolen and you probably won’t find competition in. There’s working smart - sure… but most people confuse this with cutting corners.

Even if I add details, easter eggs or hints that 99% of people miss (and they do lol) that’s fine. Because I WILL know.

If you maintain a standard of excellence across everything you do, it will show. To make an original contribution, you have to be irrationally obsessed. Energy beats tactics every single time.

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6. It’s all an upward spiral.

Maybe it’s the optimist in me, but when you zoom out, isn’t it all working in your favour? Spirals can throw off us equilibrium, and make us think we’re falling off the path, but you can’t fall of the path. Doubt is a pause, it arrives when you reach the edge of clarity, and allows you to re-centre again before the transformation.Mastery is not about eliminating uncertainty, but about developing a relationship with it. It’s an ongoing dialogue between what you know, what you’re discovering, and what remains unknown. Zooming out from time to time helps you reaffirm, you’re still ascending.

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​7. Reality is Negotiable.

You have to cooperate in your awakening. You can negotiate with reality, rather than accept what’s given to you, because ultimately, life isn’t happening to you, it’s coming from you. It starts with radical accountability and ends with playing your role as a co-creator.

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​8. You always get what you think you deserve.

You cannot cheat vibration and frequency. The universe is impartial, whatever you fundamentally believe about yourself, is what you will receive back, the secret is, it’s all a mirror. The only work that truly matters then, is addressing your beliefs (honestly), worldviews and doing the inner engineering to change your outer reality. So your current results and circumstances, are an accurate representation of the architecture of your mind.

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​9. Believe in yourself - not in the hype around you.

Complacency kills. And when you collect a few wins, how you’re viewed from the outside is warped. All the praise can soften you, derail and distract you from the work that got you there in the first place. “When most founders get rich they get sloppy” - Charlie Munger. The moment you start thinking you’ve arrived, is the same moment you begin the descent. Ultimately, if you do it for the praise, you weren’t meant to do it anyway.
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​10. It’s not about doing more

Most ambitious business owners and creators fall into the same trap: believing that winning comes from constant addition. More tasks, more habits, more commitments. But true mastery isn’t about accumulation, it’s about strategic subtraction. It’s not about doing more, it’s about refining what’s already on your plate. That 4 hour morning routine won’t save you.
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​11. Carve out time for Rest & Recovery

Real recovery and energy restoration. I’ve learnt the hard way, if you don’t make the time, your body and mind will do it for you. (AKA: burnout). This doesn’t mean sit around and scroll all day, but instead, leisure-maxxing. Understanding that your down time is also linked to the quality of your work and output.

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12. The next message you need to see, is always right in front of you.

All soul searching, all adventure and all quests, always seem to reveal what was in front of you the entire time. It’s like we’re playing a big game of Dora the Explorer, and can’t seem to see the clues, yet it seems to obvious, and maybe even frustrating, to those who are looking from the outside in.

Step outside yourself more often to see the clues, Dora.

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​13. Luck and synchronicity are not an external force.

Synchronicity is the surest signal that you are in alignment. Once you get enough signs to confirm what you already know, you no longer crave for them, and then they will increase in intensity because of your detachment towards them. This happens to me beyond belief, but it confirms the idea that on some level, I am engineering this.

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​14. The invite arrives as soon as you don’t want go.

I don’t crave the views, the money, the validation or the connections. And so they arrive in abundance. Again, you can’t fake this, you have to be so obsessed with your process, that everything else outside of it is a bonus. This has proven true with business, with people and everything in-between.

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​15. Fear is just incomplete knowledge.

We only fear what we don’t understand. Think about the paranormal. To regular people that’s fear, but to the exorcist that’s just another day at work. The same is true with our problems, seek to understand, find new vantage points and watch the fear dissipate. Bonus: action relieves anxiety.

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​16. Division only exists in the mind.

We’re separated by faiths, countries, borders, skin colors, teams, politics and more. But true wisdom is understanding there is no real separation. Consciousness is unified. God wears many masks, and until you can see God in the face of even those you seemingly hate, you have work to do. (I still have work to do)

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17. They’re just saving face.

Don’t be surprised if most people you come across protect themselves through being cynical. By finding the flaws or potential hazards in what you do. They get to sit comfortably throwing judgement, and will shield themselves from disappointment by not even trying, they will tell themselves they didn’t even want it, whilst in reality, it eats them alive from the inside, that YOU’RE living by design and them by default. Remember, a bad day in the arena is better than the best day in the crowd.
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​“I’ve been all over the world, and I’ve never seen a statue of a critic.” — Leonard Bernstein

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​18. Say No more often.

The world will pull at you in a thousand ways, your ability to say No, to remain rooted in your sense of self, in your mission, will determine how far you go. If you’re easily distracted, you’re easily controlled. If No thing outside of you can determine your worth, you’re on the right tracks.

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19. Go on more side quests.

I know this can contradict the point I just made, but thats the beauty in knowing when to say yes and when to say no. Whilst you’re building, don’t forget to live. I find myself in crazy scenarios and settings because I say yes to a lot of random side quests. Just a few months ago my good friend Musa asked me to fly on a private jet with him to the Italian mountains, and when you have zero expectation of what can come of those quests, they tend to bring you more.
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​20. Expose yourself to new ways of thinking, it’s all the same anyway.

Don’t allow yourself to be boxed in. Don’t be just ‘the business guy’ or just ‘the spiritual woman’ - become multi-faceted, seek to understand new worldviews that most are closed off to, open your mind to find the parallels rather than the differences, it will help you more than you know. Read ancient texts, send dumb memes. I can see the parallels in the hood guys I grew up with through to the astute business men in my network now. Remember, unity, not division.

The truth is universal, but has many faces, the more you expose yourself to new faces, the more your consciousness rises.
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​21. The Cosmic Trade Off

If it doesn’t require a sacrifice, it isn’t real. There is no take without give. Everything exists in a cosmic cycle of harmonious sacrifice. Even the breath you take right now must be traded for the next one. And so you cannot expect progress, without sacrifice, but you have to be willing to give it up.
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​“No one takes it from me, but I lay it down of my own accord.” —
Jesus in John 10:18.

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​22. You can’t do it alone.

I used to want to buy a neon sign that said “Self-Made” - until I realized that is a statement reserved for the ego. No One gets to the top alone, even if it appears that way. And so for that, another thank you to those who help me without question, with my show, with my ideas and my execution. Never lose that perspective or trade it for entitlement. Thank those people more often.
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23. The best performers are playing, not competing.

You’ll never outperform or outcompete someone who’s doing it for fun. We’re not even looking at the scoreboard, we just want to run the race. All success in life comes from finding that state of play you had as a child again and weaving it into what you do now.
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24. Intention creates Mastery.

Mastery is downstream of intention. Find out what you want, then focus - focus is just the centralization of your energy. Instead of it being scattered, it’s gathered, and that’s where success is born.
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The Bible says ‘the man with no vision will perish’,
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Krishna says "the man of vision and I are one."​
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so don’t be double minded, find out what you want, and go after it relentlessly.

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​25. Take more risks.

I’m not a gambler in a regular casino, but I am in the cosmic casino of life. Every successful person I know has a “I’ll figure it out on the way” mentality. You can still calculate risks, but at a certain point it’s like trying to look around two corners, you wont know until you jump, and most of the time, the net will appear below you, nature never lets you fall on your face when you take risks.
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26. Have Conviction.

Have you ever notice that those who fall off a bike are those who don’t fully trust themselves? But those who ride with conviction seem to flow through traffic with ease? The same is true with life, with business, with relationships - have total conviction once you decide to go for it, and no obstacle will impair you. Momentum will snowball, evidence will build, and you’ll quantum leap.

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And that concludes my 26 reflections for the year.

Which one resonated with you the most?

Before I close off I just want to share…

Some of my favourite things from this year, in case you missed it

​My Episode with Sahil Bloom, so many gems in this one​
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​My Episode with Luke Belmar​

​My Book List​

​My Masterclass in inner engineering​

A line I’ve been using as I grow:
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​“If you think I came out of nowhere, you just simply haven’t been paying attention.” ​
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​Some of my favourite upcoming things: ​
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Exciting high profile guests and with very unique cinema worthy episodes on my youtube...
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(which I can’t share until done — next episode with Jordan Welch is out next week)

My First Community Retreat / Mastermind (probably in Japan)
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Whatever quests life bring me as I let my curiosity and intuition guide me.

I honestly don’t plan too far ahead, and let the path unfold as I walk. (Maybe that’s reflection 27)

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So whether you found me through youtube, instagram, a friend, or by chance...
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Thank you again, for being here, hopefully, this time next year,

I’ll be reflecting on yet another year of bigger and better growth,

and sharing it with you here again :)

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Until next time,

Milan | Untethrd